There are two ways to go about life. Either you go with the flow or you go against it. It’s right you should fight for your dreams and never settle for less than you want, but there are some exceptions to the rule. Your body. You cannot order the exact the perfect one you want via mail. You cannot pick a few body parts from different inspirational fitness models and assume they are up for grabs.

A lot of times you ask me how long it will take ‘before you look just like me’. You ask for an estimated time of arrival for that dream body of yours. I understand you feel we all have muscles and we all have bones, so we should all more or less look the same if we do all that hard work and eat right. The magazines push this on you constantly. You ‘deserve’ it. And anyone who works 100% hard will end up with that perfect body. It’s unfortunately not true.

Start with what you’ve got. You got narrow shoulders and wide hips? Then don’t try to turn it into the opposite! I’m in no way saying stop fighting, I am saying look at what you have, see your strong points and focus on doing the best you can to bring up the weaker ones. Pick role models that have your body type and learn how they worked on it to reach their excellence.

I’m personally never going to be a tall, slender woman with ‘long looking’ muscles. It’s just not me. If I try and trust me I did for a few years, my body doesn’t cooperate at all. Either I could have kept on fighting upstreams or I could acknowledge my strengths and see them as perks instead of a curse.

We are not all supposed to look the same way. It’s part of why it’s interesting to look at other people! Do you want to see carbon copies of yourself? I don’t!

For years I struggled with my body’s constant body weight fluctuation. One day I was up 7 lbs (without carb day or sodium repletion etc), the other day down 5, then up 2, then down 3, then up 4 etc. It drove me nuts! I seriously thought I had a tumor in my brain so I got an MRI to check it! Of course there was nothing! I had all kinds of stress tests, hormone tests etc to see what caused it and nothing pointed towards any disease or malfunction. I was miserable because how could I who was so lean (I had bodpod showing 7.9% Body fat and not only at one occasion. I did several to double check…yes you know me and my preciseness..) have smooth abs every other day making me looking all skinny fat?

I had no solution. Until I one day just said ‘screw this’, I’m letting my body be as muscular as it is. I am going to stop kill it and regain my 7 lbs of muscle I had stripped off of it.

What happened? Well, first of all, I got high blood pressure. LOL. Now in after thought it was due to the sudden increase in work load and my strength skyrocketed. Oh boy my muscles were so happy! They had not been allowed to lift like they used to for 2 years. I went through a period of feeling fat and too big for my body for a few weeks. I stopped looking in the mirror. I felt like a sausage. Then, suddenly, I got a reward….. When my body got to 121 which seems to be the exact weight my body thrives on, guess what happened to my weight fluctuation and smooth abs? It went solid! Every day more or less 121. Didn’t move. No more up and down. And my abs? Well, deeper and leaner. You can see from my every day condition pics. So I gained 10 lbs in a few months. Most muscle. I don’t feel fatter that’s for sure. 

On another note. Sometimes I feel guilty for putting out pics out there that imply I’m ‘perfect’. In no way I am that! I have more flaws than you can imagine! Look at my elbows for instance: all red from years leaning on them. Sometimes people tell me it looks sickly and it hurts but I have chosen to consider them as sign I use my elbows to fight in life:-).

With all this being said, I just want you to fight for the best version of YOU. And know that you can accomplish a lot more than you believe, but it takes a lot of time. A lot of time. So worth it though!

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